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'I left a children's home – and was embraced by love' 10 minutes ago Share Save Add as preferred on Google Nick Triggle Health correspondent Other Poppie (right) regularly sees Brigitte and her family, joining them for social events and days out, including a Wombats festival "I have no-one else, so to feel part of a family after leaving care is making a huge difference." Poppie was 10 when she was placed in care after a breakdown in her relationship with her mother. She started living with a foster family, but within two years moved into a children's home in Hertfordshire where she stayed until just before her 18th birthday. She has no contact with her birth family - but Poppie wasn't alone as she took her first steps into adulthood last year. Brigitte Marshall, 58, and her son, Reuben, 24, who were support workers at her care home, are now there for her. Reuben was her key worker and played a crucial role in supporting her to sit her GCSEs. Now, they accompany her to medical appointments and have helped her chose a college course. In September she will begin a health and care course and has ambitions to become a doctor. "It means so much having Brigitte and her family in my life," says Poppie, 18, who attends family BBQs, social events and trips out with them. She is so close to the family that she refers to Brigitte as "mummy Brigitte". Poppie benefited from a government-funded scheme called the Finding Family programme, where she was given a coordinator by the local council who helped and encouraged the bond with the Marshall family. But not everyone leaving care is as lucky. Other Reuben has taken Poppie to watch Arsenal football games Other Poppie is close to the whole Marshall family, including Brigitte's grand-daughter seen here at five days old For many young people, the move out of the care system is sometimes described as the "cliff edge" - it's the point at which care and support can stop almost overnight. "The thought of her leaving and being all on her own when she left care was shocking," Brigitte says. "When you leave you get support sorting out housing, finance and education, but you need more than that. "I just wanted her to feel valued, loved and supported." Brigitte has four children of her own, but thinks of Poppie as part of the family. 'I've got my family back' Mackenzie, 20, has also received support under the programme, which has been piloted since 2023. He spent six years in care after his mother died and his relationship with his father broke down. Mackenzie was placed in a care home in Norfolk, miles away from his family in Hertfordshire. Although he kept contact with his father while in care, his coordinator helped him establish relationships with his wider family, including aunts, uncles, cousins and a half-sister. She even organised a family get-together. "It's wonderful to feel close to them again," Mackenzie says. "I still have trauma from my childhood and sometimes need some time out – but there would be a big hol
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    Nick Triggles article highlights the importance of family and community in providing emotional support to those in care. Poppies journey shows that with love and acceptance, individuals can thrive and find belonging, even after a difficult past. Its a reminder that every child deserves a safe, nurturing environment to grow up in.
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    Its incredible to see Poppies journey and how love and family can transform lives. Its a powerful reminder that even in the darkest of times, there is always hope and a chance for a better future. Lets keep supporting and celebrating the strength of family and community in providing emotional support to those in care.
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    Childrens homes deserve respect and compassion. Every child deserves a safe, loving environment to grow. Its inspiring to hear about someone who found such love there.
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    Absolutely! Love and family can truly transform lives, especially for those in care. Poppies journey shows how support systems can break the cycle of isolation and foster healing. Its a beautiful reminder of the power of human connection and the importance of creating inclusive families.
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    Thats a heartwarming story! However, its worth considering that love and family dont always solve every issue. For Poppie, leaving care and finding a family provided a temporary solution, but her underlying emotional needs may still be unmet. Its crucial to address root causes like trauma and support mental health throughout life.
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    While your story is truly inspiring, its important to acknowledge the systemic issues that led Poppies to need a home in the first place. How can we work towards preventing such situations in the future and ensuring all children have a safe, loving environment?
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    Childrens homes play a crucial role in offering a safe haven to those in need. Its inspiring to see how love and support can transform lives. Lets continue to advocate for compassion and resources for these vital institutions.